Friday, April 11, 2014

Choices

Rarely I do personal posts about my life beyond commenting on a little craziness here and there. But today, I'll be making a bit of an exception, maybe because I'm on a path of change, an uncertain one, but it is happening all the same. So, if you prefer to skip the stories, then go to the last paragraph for a happy weekend send off...


Last week I made the decision to end a business relationship that I knew in my heart I needed to be done with, but it was not easy at all and took a lot of effort. That same day I read an article about Saying No and despite the fact that I still felt stressed about what I had to do, I was certain in the long run I had done it to save me from something more difficult along the way.

 
A couple of months ago I was talking to a friend who is going through similar things I've been going through. He had a TV show purchased by a large network, but they pulled the plug on it and he has been trying to get another deal ever since. Connecting with him and having someone understand what I was going through was cathartic, and even though we are still trying to figure things out, we thought maybe we should find a solution together instead of isolated.


I'm not big on self help books because I've always been a "deal on your own" kind of person, but then I found this book about someone who has gone through some really tough times. Then I started reading his blog, and today I'm reading the book for the second time. Why you may ask? Simply because we always need someone who understands what we go through and made it to the other side, because sometimes we do need help, and because help may come from unexpected places.


I have no idea what the outcome of all of this will be, and can't deny I've been a little anxious about what I cannot control, but at the end of the day I still have that spark of faith that tells me things will be alright. Once more, I have to thank those of you who come by to visit me, even when I go MIA, and if I don't say it enough... THANK YOU!

Have a lovely weekend!

25 comments:

  1. Wow, that first quote RINGS. It is so true but so many people don't live by it! That one is going in my quote book for sure. Well done for ending whatever your business problem was - even if it doesn't seem like a problem to everyone on the outside, if it is getting you down, it is a problem. I'm glad you could find someone close to you that could relate; it is so much easier to go through things like this with an understanding friend. I have lots of friends that are sympathetic to problems I have, but it is so hard trying to find people who can actually really understand what you are going through. Hope everything pulls together for you. Rosemary x

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  2. kudos to you for doing what was right. big decisions aren't easy! i love how positive you are about all of this. best of luck :)

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  3. LOVE that book. Also just found the book via some interviews the author has done on You Tube. It is so inspirational. I am sure I will re-read it also once I finish.
    Applause for not taking the easy option and sticking with a relationship you knew was not working. It would have been the easiest solution but definitely not the best for you. Yes, that spark of faith will get stronger as times passes. Decisions that come from both the heart and head are nearly always right xx

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  4. I really hope that positive change comes your way soon dear! It really is hard to say no, but once we do, we learn we are so much better for having said no. Good luck with the road ahead dear!

    xoxo,
    Chic 'n Cheap Living

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  5. good luck on whatever you're going through! I'm sure listening to your heart is always the way to go .

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  6. i totally can relate what you wrote.I also think none of the things I want or want to do in my life comes easy to me.I have always worked hard for them to come to me but then I though,do i want little things like most people? Then,I said no,because most of the things I accomplished in my life was impossible for my relatives or to any people I get to talk to about my matters.So its okay if anyone doesnt understand your problems.Just dont worry too much and take it easy.We are all going to die someday :)
    xx

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  7. i'm SO happy you shared! - I wish you the VERY best on your new journey! - lord knows I've fallen apart so many times and had to put myself together ... it ALL works out in the end the way it should be; embrace it and your gonna be 1000X better then when you started!

    XOXO

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  8. I hear your!! I went through the same thing. I nipped a business partnership in the bud b/c I was doing %95 of it. And in a separate situation and because I did not want to inconvenient my boss at may contract job I did not take the contract work and I was honest with her and let her know there was "a chance" I may get a permanent job that I did not end up getting instead of just taking the contract work and leaving after 2 weeks before the end of the contract work if I had to. I lost the contract work.So now no income. So from now on I PUT MYSELF FIRST. No more being nice and worrying about the peoples feels etc. Not when it comes to work and your livelihood.

    So yes sounds like you did the right thing, and in the long run you will be much better off.

    Allie of ALLIE NYC
    allienyc.com

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  9. I think it's needed sometimes doll...we stay with partnerships in life or work and they just don't do us any good, it does the opposite. And though it may be tough, we have to break them in order to keep our sanity and sometimes health. We must put ourselves first, am glad that you did it!! I hope you have a great weekend xx

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  10. Good for you for taking a stand and saying no. Sometimes it is tough, but I wish you the best of luck with everything!

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  11. It would be great if all our collaborations work out but sometimes recognizing that it just won't and ending can be the right thing to do. It probably wasn't an easy decision for you but I hope everything will turn out alright :)

    Rowena @ rolala loves

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  12. Good for you for putting yourself and your needs first! It is okay to say no sometimes... something I definitely need to work on! I always feel so guilty if I say "no" but sometimes you got to put yourself first!
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  13. We have to do whats best for us and what makes sense time, effort and stress wise. All the best hun. I am thankful for your comment. Have a wonderful weekend!

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  14. Great post with a great reminder! Loving your sweet comments on my blog but since you're a no-reply blogger I can't respond to you via email so I wanted to come over and say thank you on your blog! Have a happy weekend! Xx.

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  15. It's important to get rid of what (or who) doesn't work in your life. I learned that lesson a couple of years ago. I got rid of business partnerships, "friends" and my boyfriend! HaHaHa I feel much better now, because they didn't bring anything positive to my life. They weren't helping me in anyway. I was doing everything. So don't feel bad. I delete anything and anybody that causes me stress. It sounds cold, but it's a must for me. People will use you til they can't use you anymore.
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  16. Elie, it was good to stop by and see this--I like that you took the time to delve into your personal thoughts. I think we are all, every single one of us, especially the ones who seem so perfect, trying to hang in there and weather the storm. Wishing you a wonderful weekend!
    xo Mary Jo

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  17. I think what you said here is applicable to lots of people's lives. I know that it is definitely applicable to mine – despite the fact that we lead very different lives, a lot of what you have written here really resonates with me. Which is why I rushed to check out the book before I had even finished commenting on the post, and why I have already downloaded it and plan to start reading it immediately, and why I have the two articles you linked to already open on two tabs in my browser window :-)

    Good luck. Follow that spark, stick to your guns, and choose yourself. And may the outcome be amazing!

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  18. I've found it takes a lot more strength to say NO than to say YES. If in your gut, it was the right decision, then you will be fine. I'm keeping you in my thoughts

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  19. Hello dear, thank you for sharing your story here. You are going in the right direction, never look back!
    Baci,
    Coco
    Coco et La vie en rose / Bloglovin / Facebook

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  20. great quotes!
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    xx.M

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  21. As we get older we hope to learn to let go of things we can not control and not stress over things. I always believe things happen for a reason and if we think positive everything will fall into place. I wish you and your friend best of luck!

    Frances O

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  22. Good luck with all of this; glad you've found some support!
    Lori

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  23. great!
    xo
    MOSAMUSE

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