Today's post is a bit on what happened last weekend. On Friday I delivered an order of Alfajores and my client asked me to come in while she looked for her check book in her bag. While she was writing the check she asked me if I was dating anyone to which I replied "Not at the moment", then she asked me if it was OK if her brother would call me to ask me out and proceeded to tell me all his great qualities while she looked at me as if I had three heads.
The other thing that happened was that yesterday I was supposed to have dinner with some friends. About an hour before I was supposed to meet them my friend called to say that if we could re-schedule because she invited other friends of hers and it was turning out to be an all couples affair. Then she added that it would be uncomfortable for them to have a single girl in the mix and we should do it another time.
So, I was in some sort of very uncomfortable episode of SATC and somehow I didn't have my fabulous shoes on. The thing is that somehow I was not welcome in a group of all married people and also I was being studied for being single.
Above is the last scenes of the SATC because I love what Carries says about loving yourself above all:
'Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous...'
My friends out there... if you are single feel good, enjoy and be happy being you... if you happen to have found the one, never forget about your friends because they were there by your side before you found your other half.
Have a nice week!
if you didn't mention SATC I would have definitely thought of it.
hmmm, why would it be uncomfortable for them??
I bet you had a better time without joining them for dinner.
They uninvited you because you are not a couple? LAME!!!!! Can I just defend my people for a second? Although I am happily married I love hanging out with others, even if there's an odd number. In fact, I just hung out at Disneyland with another couple without my husband and had a FABULOUS time riding the rides by myself and taking pictures with just me and Mickey. Urgh, this just annoys me. I am annoyed.ReplyDelete
Enjoy life on your own, even if you are a couple. Even if you are single. I'm so sorry you got uninvited. Again, I am annoyed by both stories. Gah.
Elie, I can't believe that she did that. But, I know people who are like that and it's a terrible shame. They don't know what they're missing. I'm part of a couple; however, this is something I would never do. It's just too ridiculous for words.ReplyDelete
My motto is surround yourself with wonderful, kind people....the rest doesn't and shouldn't matter.
p.s. You are FABULOUS! I love Sex and the City and what you can learn from it!
Sex and the City is a great source of wisdom when it comes to life and love. I think your friend treated you really bad. I am married and I have friends both single, dating and married. They are my friends no matter what. And Carrie really got it right, you have to love yourself first and then find somebody to love your self.ReplyDelete
Wow, not everyone needs or wants a relationship. It's kind of the same for women who are married and don't want kids I would think ~ I bet they get a lot of the same blank stares. Hey, enjoy your freedom ~ less laundry and no one to answer to! xoReplyDelete
I'm so sorry you had to experience that. Doesn't it sound like something out of middle school. Ridiculous.ReplyDelete
I hope you have a single girls night planned...
Love that SATC quote it's so fabulous! I'm with you though I think being single-you just need to be happy about it and enjoy it! Sorry your friend did that, it does really sound like something out of Sex and the City though!ReplyDelete
Ummm, I'm calling the LAME card! Relationships come and go, friends don't...ReplyDelete
Totally agree with everyone's comments! That totally sucks that they uninvited you because you were single! Who does that?! I know it's none of my business, but after that uncomfortable scenario, I would totally reevaluate that friendship. They should want your company for being the fabulous person that you are, not based on your relationship status! Lame indeed!ReplyDelete
I am so sorry that this woman was thoughtless enough to see your singleness as a condition that makes people uncomfortable, and rude enough to cancel plans because of it. Surely she knew you were single when she made the plans? I've been following here for a while now, and here is what I see - a woman who is talented, creative, accomplished, and bright. I didn't know if you were single, married, tall, short, fat, anorexic, or anything else about your situation. I DO know that your positive qualities FAR outweigh the 'negative' (as if!) of being single! YOU are pretty darn fabulous, regardless of the lack of Carrie-worthy shoes.ReplyDelete
How rude, just tell me who I need to bumpkin slap. I loved my single days before My Captain!ReplyDelete
So Free, and no dirty underwear in the floor!
this is a great post :) good for your, forget her and her negativity! what is that about anyway? for crying out loud, I'm right with ya!ReplyDelete
omg I LOVE this post so much. Not only is that an incredible scene from SATC, but it's so damn frustrating always being the one single person . . . though I can't BELIEVE you got disinvited from a dinner party because of it! You should have shown up with a "questionable" looking man as your date, haha!ReplyDelete
SATC is such a great resource for all those sticky situations. I can't wait for the movie this weekend.ReplyDelete
that is just heartbreaking to postpone your date by your friend for one reason you didn't have at that moment. there should be a time for everything but i think that was your time. anyhow, there is no greater gift than possession of strong self confidence that is followed by love for who you are. this is the foundation of all love-without it, you can't give it to others. have a great day. thanks for dropping by. verbena cottageReplyDelete
I'm sorry that your friends would uninvite you for such a minor reason, I just can't imagine that a group would be bothered because of one single person's relationship status. I often attend events without my husband because his schedule is ridiculous. I think there is a lot of truth to Carrie's quote, and appropriate for occasions such as this one.ReplyDelete
awww this is such a fabulous post with great meaning behind it! all too often people will spend a lot of time w/ their significant others and maybe their old friendships will fail. but i definitely think that it is important to always still hang out with your friends as they are what make you who you are! =)ReplyDelete
Reminds me how everyone thinks all couples should have kids...or have events for people with kids only.ReplyDelete
I recently got an email from a friend that said this:
"The dental hygienist I had the other day was very sweet but she says this to me (after asking if I had kids) ‘A lot of people don’t get married or have kids and they can still have happy lives’ Or something like that. Sweet baby Jesus, it’s not like I lost a limb. "
I truly could relate. When I have events it's for my friends...ALL my friends...single, married, with kids, without kids...
Hi, thanks for popping by my blog and leaving a sweet message. You are one of my first visitors. Very exciting. I utterly empathise with your situation. Yes, I am married, but my husbands job used to take him away for months at at time. During those times I was so obviously not invited to social events in our then circle of friends, due to my current 'single' status. I moved on. A lot of them are now divorced. Irony. I now have a life full of wonderful women some single, some married and my husband. I know it feels like a smack in the face, but they are not worth the energy of your dismay. Please enjoy the rest of your week! Love SATC too! Keep some fabulous shoes handy future SATC moments.ReplyDelete
Oh my, people are so silly... no one should be defined by their marital status or lack of. That was a little short sighted of your friend to postpone!ReplyDelete
I would embrace your single status for as long as you can :-)
Love that quote... it gives you a lot to think about. It makes you think about what kind of love you have with people in your life.ReplyDelete
I so agree with you! Friends are too valuable in life!
I loved the end of Sex and the City!!! And your post definitely does sound like an episode of it. Can't believe you were uninvited somewhere because you were single!ReplyDelete
And thanks for visiting my blog too.
I like this post. It is so true. We should be happy single. I have found someone, but I won't forget my friends.ReplyDelete
Have a lovely day!
Wow how rude! My friend last year had the exact same thing happen and she ended up confronting her friend about the situation. Embrace your singledom, enjoy and everyone else can go eff off if they have a problem with it!ReplyDelete
I can't believe they didn't want to invite because they would be uncomfortable and that they actually told you that. I've always fit in nicely with my couple friends and have always included my single ones when I was part of a couple but lately I do feel some have distanced themselves because I'm not a couple. Great advice!ReplyDelete
As part of a married couple, I can honestly say, we love to have our single friends join us...that is just crazy!ReplyDelete
just came back to say 'thanks' for the visit and lovely comments. will be coming back soon...hope you had a day full of cheers, keep smiling and have a fabulous evening...verbena cottageReplyDelete
This is great, Iloved it! I am so glad you stopped by and left a comment doll. Loving your blog ;) xoxoReplyDelete
OMG...that is not too nice...I've never heard of something like that...They would feel uncomfortable? Ohhh..I am so sorry!ReplyDelete
I am a part of a couple and I am telling you, we have many single friends and it never was a problem...
Don’t worry sweetie, tomorrow will be better!